Comments on: Annoying “mother in law”, anyone else have similar problems?

By: ♥Guess my name♥

♥Guess my name♥ — Sun, 07 Feb 2010 04:51:28 +0000

It’s okay to let it all out. Asking for advice is all right. Especially on Yahoo! Answers. When my mom had brother two years ago, she was unbelievably cranky. It took me a while to learn that she just needed to let it all out. I mean, its not everyday you get pregnant. Being thirteen, I might not have all the info on this kind of stuff.

No doubt your mother in law is annoying, but take into account that she’s caring for you and the baby. Although some of things, she says is darn right stupid. (i.e. sneezing into a scarf), just tell her that you appreciate her help but that you just need to rest.

It took me a while to learn how to approach my mom while she was pregnant. “/ But once I just sat down and let her talk to me, it was all good. (Okay, not completely dandy, but it helped.)

Good luck with the baby (:

By: Hypnopsyc

Hypnopsyc — Sun, 07 Feb 2010 04:34:40 +0000

this is a little weird coming from her because this isnt her first grandchild.
well anyway, just ignore her and do your thing. just keep your respect for her there.
if you didnt want her in the ultrasound room with u then just dont let her come in the first place. it is kinda weird that she brought u all the way there then she has to wait outside and drive u back all the way and thats it.
she sounds like a smartie and a little nutty but we all have MIL’s just like that.
just bite down on yourself a bit and hopefully you’ll find a place a little farther =P

Good luck with her! =)

By: ~*It's a boy,due 2-7-10 w/#1

~*It's a boy,due 2-7-10 w/#1 — Sun, 07 Feb 2010 03:54:53 +0000

My over-dramatic mother in law calls my baby HER BABY!! All the time, she says her baby. My husband has told her we are not comfortable with her calling the baby hers and she still does it. I feel like I’m the surrogate mother and she will take the baby when he’s born. She has even bought a crib and made a nursery at her house for the baby. Yet she has not helped us buy anything for the baby. We don’t even live close to her, like 45 min away. And my baby is not going to be spending the night over there for a long, long time, if ever. I just don’t trust her with my baby. It is hard to deal with mother in laws like that, but my solution is to talk to her as least amount of possible so my pregnant hormones don’t go off on her. I don’t know if that’s the best advice for you but at least you won’t say something you will regret.

By: Elissa

Elissa — Sun, 07 Feb 2010 03:09:37 +0000

Honestly, while she does sound pushy, you sound really negative. Every suggestion she makes, you say “no” to. No wonder she seemed frustrated on your shopping trip. How much would it have hurt you to buy a scarf and make her happy?

I’m thinking it’s a combination of your hormones and her being pushy.

By: Lauren B

Lauren B — Sun, 07 Feb 2010 02:51:41 +0000

My main suggest would be that as soon as you can move away from where they are, do it. It’s not going to get better. Mother-in-laws like that just don’t change.

By: Jenny

Jenny — Sun, 07 Feb 2010 02:32:05 +0000

okay just to say it first, please don’t write every details, it was too much to read, but i finished i.
It is hard to put myself into that position, because me and my mother in law met on my weeding day (tomorrow 3 month ago ) and he is great. We went shopping, i wasn’t even showing, and she bought maternity clothes for 300 bucks. She is nice ans calls every now and then.
My and my husbands parents live 5 and 9 hours away. so they can’t be at the ultrasound, but at my first one i still lived at home and took my mom, my husband wasn’t living in the same town anymore at that time. the second one i lived here already so i went by myself, my husband is in the military and couldn’t go. i will have another one on monday and we will find out the sex, and my husband is going and i am sure my and his mom would love to go if they would be here and i would not mind. And i also think that it is great that you allow her to come in but after you and your boyfriend seen the baby. she should be happy. ignore her and tell your boyfriend that he is old enough and started his own family and let go of his mom! he acts like a baby.
by the way, how old are you and your boyfriend?
I am 20, will be 21 in dec. and 21w pregn. my husband will be 26 in dec.

By: Doodlestuff

Doodlestuff — Sun, 07 Feb 2010 02:18:35 +0000

At what point are you and your bf going to develop a spine and tell her to stop micromanaging your life? You need to sit her down and tell her that she needs to stop. It’s not funny anymore and are more the actions and speech of a controlling person, not an excited, future grandma. Tell her NO, the godfather will be a friend who is actually responsible and not a guy who gets drunk regularly.

By: 18april2010

18april2010 — Sun, 07 Feb 2010 01:30:01 +0000

she is a complete nut. you have every right to be annoyed with her.
and i love the a-holes on here who say they cant take the time to read your post but take the time to write a stupid answer? LOL at them. anywho…
the coat, scarf thing etc, that is just an “older” persons way of going on about winter, and this is only made worse by the fact your pregnant. my mum is CONSTANTLY going on at me about wrapping up etc and everytime i come to visit her she has us all sweating so me and baby dont get cold, its sweet, but i have to tell her to turn off the heat a lot lol
but the scan thing?? its simply ridiculous. like you said you get a dvd and pictures, so why should she get pride of place in the room with you and your partner, when your own parents and family will have to see the dvd.
shes being ridiculous, put your foot down (again!) and say no no no but at the same time if she does manage to weedle her way in with you then dont let her spoil it, like you say magical time seeing baby and what it looks like etc, at the end of the day no matter where she is, whether she ends up DELIVERING your baby, my main point is its YOUR baby no matter how annoying she gets! xx

By: bellasma

bellasma — Sun, 07 Feb 2010 00:43:55 +0000

I know, right? My mom and my mother-in-law are BOTH like this. I imagine it getting much worse after the baby is born. They were mothers 30 years ago, and apparently they did everything right. It’s much easier to tell my own mother how it is, but you have to just stick to your guns. Be tactful, but ultimately it’s your baby.

By: Tabo

Tabo — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 23:55:43 +0000

Wow, I am not sure what to tell you. My MIL is great. She’s been a little busy with work lately but she calls now and then (DH more I suppose as he calls her more frequently than I as well) and asks how we are. She’s excited for us and all.

At least your bf put his foot down with her. As long as he keeps standing up to her. Seems like you’re getting things your way you just have to deal with attitude. I don’t blame you for not wanting her there for the u/s. My friend offered to go w/ me to my doc appt, but this is the first one with DH and I together so I thanked her, but some other time. Now you have to decide what to do with your MIL and the labor…b/c apparently she wants to be right there in all the action.

Perhaps your boyfriend (and you) needs to sit her down and let her know you’re both going to do things a bit differently. As the parents you’d like her to respect your rules and try things at your ways…and if she feels you’re making a mistake…she can point that out but she needs to respect how you want to raise the child. So some things maybe different, but loving the new addition certainly is one thing you both will do and the baby will need her love too. (Grandparents are important…)

So, I hope you guys can work everything out! Good luck!